Yes, there may be consequences to your being honest, though if you have a good relationship with your children, you may stand a good chance of staying connected to them. She came home, noticed that I had been crying, and asked if I was okay. There's this torment inside you: do you actually value what you feel enough to put everything on the line? His wife began to suspect he was interested in men and searched for clues of his deception. I remember the exact date my parents told me: it was the only year I kept a diary, and there's a big, black scribble on 11 February. Having no idea of the reality, I secretly thought it might be quite exciting to have divorced parents. I had apparently just needed someone to say that to me.
Let everyone know that you'd like to talk to have a serious talk, free of distractions. Co-authors: If they say something negative or hurtful, remind yourself that you are important and that you are good enough just the way you are. Although the trauma of being a straight spouse or partner can be overwhelming, it is important to realize that the situation you find yourself in is not your fault.
Turn to a trusted friend or family member if you are scared. Take care of yourself as you go through the grieving process. I can tell you that coming out to my wife about being bisexual has saved our marriage — despite the lying. If your family member doesn't offer you support, you'll understandably feel bad. Take some time to reflect on who you want to tell and what you want to say.
Shortly before I came out to my wife, she had no idea about my conflict concerning my sexual orientation. We have walked through a lot of places hand-in-hand and happily. When my mom discovered whichever websites I had been visiting, she talked to my dad and they decided to talk with me. Since then I've had two flings, but nothing for eight years. Assume your marriage is over. He wasn't exactly a manly man. Lewis Oakley is a weekly bisexual correspondent on Gay Star News.